For many modern couples, it's increasingly common for one, or both, of them to have divorced parents and even more commonly, they’ve probably not separated on great terms. Add to this, the increased complications that arise when one of your divorced parents has remarried or is in a new relationship.
Whether they've only separated recently or have been for many years, your wedding can bring up a lot of strong, and sometimes unresolved, emotions for them.
Often this is not only the case for you, your fiancé and your parents, but close family and friends may also experience some of the tension as both parties try to navigate each other, their emotions and the decisions that need to be made in the planning stages and also on the wedding day itself.
It’s no wonder why wedding planning and trying to involve your divorced or separated parents can feel like it creates a lot of added pressure on you.
Weddings are supposed to be a time of joy and celebration. If you're planning a wedding and your parents are divorced, there are a few things you can do to keep the planning process drama-free. Here are a few of our best tips to help make your big day as stress-free as possible for everyone involved for your Marriage Gibraltar.
Keep tensions low by openly and honestly communicating your expectations to your parents and your wedding planner (if you have one) at the start of your wedding planning.
Talk individually with both of your parents and be upfront about your hopes and plans for them on your wedding day.
Give a heads-up to your bridesmaids, wedding party, siblings, and other key family members who may be able to help to make any uncomfortable situations a little more bearable in the leadup and on the day.
Think about the pre-wedding gatherings and their impacts too; engagement parties, the hens/stags night, bridal shower and wedding dress shopping are also times when you might want to consider the emotional impact of including (or excluding) one parent might have on the other.
For those parents not included in the ceremony entrance or processional, make sure to give them the opportunity to help with a different, but equally important, job and try to include your step-parents too, if applicable.
From readings during the ceremony to toasts at your wedding reception, ask your parents to help with a task that makes them feel involved and valued during the leadup and on your wedding day.
Other possible on-the-day responsibilities include signing the marriage certificates as your witness, carrying the rings, handing out the rose petals or the order of ceremony, seating guests, singing or performing during the processional (walking up the aisle) or recessional (walking down the aisle).
If you're worried about drama, it's important to choose a wedding planner who can handle the situation. Look for someone who is experienced in working with divorced parents, and who is able to stay calm under pressure.
Even if you do everything right, there's always the possibility that something unexpected will happen on your wedding day. If your parents start to argue, or if someone says something hurtful, try to stay calm and don't let it ruin your day.
And remember, your wedding is about celebrating your love with your family and friends. Don't let anything else get in the way of that. www.madisonroseweddings.com
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